Silence

Void

Author: Woman

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In the absence of words

Perhaps not the letter you anticipated but I feel like I'm left to fill the gaps.

I’m upset. It takes a lot for me to feel this way. You keep putting me in a position where I’m left worrying about you when it would only take 10 seconds to send a quick message like "Good morning, I’m okay, I’ll speak to you soon.” You can easily do this at some point before your workday begins.

I understand you have a busy deadline this week, and I don’t want to disturb you or occupy your time. I respect boundaries and your space.

However, we are meant to be cultivating a strong foundation for an everlasting partnership, right? And if something is troubling you or there's been a major work crisis or anything, the only way I can know is through communication. I'm not a mind reader.

Given that you were unwell recently, just a simple message would have given me some reassurance that you’re okay today.

At this point it isn’t about the letter not being uploaded despite you saying yet again you would. By you not following through on the little things, you are only creating more trouble for yourself, as it will take longer to build trust. You asked me the other day; I dont get it. Did I do something.... or am I doing something unknowingly perhaps that's making u want to say this to me? I'm genuinely curious and I wanna know. It's dawned on me today, my fears have been fed - I've been subconsciously thinking if he can not commit to the little things consistently, will he keep his word and honour a bigger commitment? That's why I kept stating, don't involve family unless you're 💯.

More importantly, it’s about me worrying about your wellbeing. At 8pm you said you’d wake up again around 11pmish, it is absolutely fine if you overslept or got busy with work. All I needed was a quick check in to know you were okay once you were up this morning. Instead, I was left worrying whether you even woke up or if something was wrong.

I know you are trying, because the voicenote last night was out of consideration.

I know you’re okay now since I saw you came online when I called, but I’m genuinely hurt and upset because I've raised this to you a few times now and communication is the bare minimum to expect and I just feel because I'm very tolerant and understanding you're not truly registering the impact it has on me. Don’t expect to hear from me anytime soon today. I just need some time.

Reflection

When a woman raises a concern or issue within a relationship, it’s important to understand that this is not an act of nagging or an attempt to criticise, annoy, or hurt you. In reality, it’s a form of communication, a way for her to express that her needs, feelings, or expectations are not being met. It’s her way of saying that something important to her requires attention, and she’s choosing to be vulnerable by sharing it with you.

She wouldn’t bring up these concerns if she didn’t care about the relationship or about you. In fact, addressing issues openly is a sign that she values the connection and wants to see it thrive. It takes courage to speak up, especially when there’s a risk of being misunderstood or dismissed. Her willingness to do so demonstrates her commitment to maintaining a strong, healthy bond.

The real cause for concern should arise when she stops bringing up issues altogether. When a woman no longer expresses what’s bothering her, it often indicates that she has emotionally withdrawn or given up on resolving problems. This emotional detachment can be a sign that she has checked out of the relationship either because she feels unheard, unappreciated, or simply exhausted from trying to communicate without seeing positive change.

Preserving a loving and respectful partnership takes two.